RARITY OF LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS.

Relationships can be complicated and difficult. There is no right way or set of predefined rules that one can follow to be apt let alone perfect. To understand and comprehend what the other person needs in this exact moment is how you move forward. And things become far more entangling when you are in a long-distance relationship (L.D.R) 

To put it right there hasn't been a person who said ' yes my partner lives 13 hours away in Shimla, and it's great' On the contrary, everyone who has somehow experienced LDR will relate to the agonizing feeling; that your heart is slowly being carved out of your chest by a butter knife and replaced with an unsatisfying  WhatsApp call and instant notifications. 

In this fast-paced world, the notion of every relationship can be summed up into two basic words ' compatibility and comfortability’ and surely there might be a way to find this in an ordinary love story but for LDR these two words are the hardest of milestones to achieve. 

Imagine sitting on a balcony, on a monsoon evening, and watching a distant diminishing shine, will it still be worth for you? For the millennials, LDR is more complicated. We have been bought up in an era where waiting isn't part of life. And before these video chats and long-distance calls, the only way to know the whereabouts was through letters but now with every single ping, and all the status notifications you connect the dots and every single insecurity embarks fro there onwards. Questions like: is it all worth it? Does he also feel the same way? Or who am I kidding? This ain't gonna work? There is no easy answer to this but to say, hormones can't be trusted but the person can be! 

There is no easy way to keep an LDR moving! But love was never made to be simple or easy and planning things work. One should be marking important dates and should look forward to them. These dated would be the one when you finally get to meet each other again in person. Perhaps the moment you stop having some milestones to look forward to, the harder it will be to maintain the same enthusiasm and optimism in, each other. 

Be slow to judge each other. It is alright to have doubts and getting irritated over simplest of mistakes, but try and understand it's the distance that is exaggerating it, irrational possessiveness will lead to nothing and yes it is truly said that 'absence makes the heart grow fonder' trust in your self, that you are irreplaceable and things will fall in place. 

To put in the simplest terms, communication is the key to it all. Your partner needs to know how much you still care for them, and the only way you can make them realize that is to tell me them yourself, talk to them and they will feel secure .tell them your problems and they will help you even if the god doesn't wish to help. 

The relationship is all about dependency and if everything that excites you can't be shared with your partner than what are you even there for? One thing that is true about relationships is that if it is not growing then it is dying.

By: Roma