Pandemic And The Emotional Quotient!

Recent events in our lives greatly affect both our mood and the way we feel about ourselves. Some research suggests that up to 40% of our “emotional quotient” is based on recent life events. The biggest negative contributor to happiness is the ending of a relationship but life has a quota of pain beyond any human can sustain and each one of us is going through some trauma or the other during this pandemic which has to lead to several negative health events. Since unhappiness also influences your self-esteem, failure and rejection can deliver a double whammy to your confidence. It can be summed up that rejection inevitably leads us to see both ourselves and other people more negatively, at least for a time, and for the past 167 days our life has been a directionless ship sinking in the storm of uncertainty And those of us who have lower self-esteem, to begin with, are more reactive to failure. It is as if an experience like losing your job grabs old negative beliefs about your self-worth and activates them. It may help to understand that failure is a nearly ubiquitous experience: Before becoming president, Abraham Lincoln lost his job, was defeated for nomination to Congress, and failed at least twice in Senate bids. Persevering despite setbacks can lead to eventual successes—which raise your self-esteem. Nevertheless, how does one focuses on positives when everything around remains negative.

To begin with, it is not easy but nothing good in life comes without a price. It does not matter if you are dealing with low self-esteem or depression or anxiety is consuming you from the inside talking to yourself always helps. Talkback to your inner critic. Remind yourself of all the reasons that you should keep moving forward, believing that someday even this phase will be past you.

Set yourself a limited, realistic goal. This could be anything from talking to two new people or finding out more about one person’s work and hobbies. If you are engaging with others you will not feel like a left out because a socially active person is less likely to feel lonely. Deliberately focus on others to combat intense self-focus. Put on your observer hat and notice what other people seem to be feeling and doing, and you will realize they are no better than you are! However, they have a will to go on! Moreover, so should you.

By: Hammy